Bad Family

It has been a long time since I have made a post. I had some things that happened in my life that where really hard to deal with. I put my trust in some one that I knew I should not have. We tried to help my My father-in-law as much as we could, but he was just using us.

We spent thousands paying his expenses to try to help him out. We paid his mortgage, home insurance, car insurance and many other expenses including replacing the roof on his house. We also spent much of our time taking care of him. We did all the cooking, cleaning, and other house hold tasks to help him out.

This is something that is hard for me to talk about. I think that it is final time for me to let it all out.

My wife and I where forced to completely cut off most of her family for the way they handled the situation. They told us it was our fault because we should have known what he was like. They blamed us when he stopped paying his bills, because we were no longer giving him money.

They would not leave us alone, insisting we should go to family functions with my father-in-law and just be ok with what he did.

The story is much worse that this, but it is not my place to share many of the details. I will say there is a history of abuse. My wife was abused both by her parents and her siblings.

My wife’s parents also stole a lot of money from her including, taking out a 24,000$ loan in her name, taking out credit cards in her name and stealing her pay checks before we were married.

We are still trying to recover from the debt they put us under.

She made up with her parents before her mother died. We moved in with them and agreed to pay half of the mortgage and electric. We lived in a half-finished basement. We did our best to try to make it our own.

We were trying to help them out, but after her mother died her father thought he could do whatever he wanted. He did not have enough money to pay all his bills so we helped him as much as we could. We even gave him so spending money each week.

We paid over 12,000$ of his expenses in an eight-mother period after my mother in-law died not including rent, half of the electric and internet. We Even pre-paid his car and homeowner’s insurance for a year to get cheaper rates.

He told us we need to pay him 1,500$ a month plus pay for all of his expenses many of which we were already paying for. This we more than we made in a month, especial after factoring our own expenses. we left immediately; we received all sorts of treats from him.

We received calls from her brothers cursing at her because she would not give them her social security number and that is when we decided to cut them all off.